Amber Ray recently stirred up a heated conversation online after sharing private messages between herself and digital creator Oga Obinna. The chats, which date back to 2022, reveal a controversial exchange in which Obinna appeared to suggest Amber meet with a wealthy associate of his under the pretense of a business meeting. According to Amber, the true nature of the meeting seemed more personal than professional, which she found highly inappropriate.
In the leaked conversations, Obinna initiated the idea by telling Amber that a rich friend had seen her photo and wanted to meet over coffee. Amber, however, was firm in her response, saying, “I don’t do that,” making it clear she wasn’t interested. When Obinna pushed back, saying it was “just coffee,” Amber stood her ground, replying that she could make her own or even buy it for the man herself, clearly signaling disinterest in the setup.
Trying to clarify his intentions, Obinna then shifted gears, claiming the meeting was business-related and that his friend was a top figure in government. He implied the meeting could lead to a lucrative tender. Amber, still skeptical, said the man would need to go through her manager. Obinna responded with, “Usiwe mgumu unifungie baraka,” suggesting she was being too rigid and blocking blessings.
In another set of messages, Obinna’s tone turned flirty, despite Amber’s evident disinterest. He wrote, “Chipo me then ghost me abeg. Or you are scared you might fall in love or get addicted?” Amber did not respond.
Alongside the screenshots, Amber gave her perspective. She stated that the messages highlighted a disrespectful mindset, where a man can simultaneously try to pimp a woman out while complimenting her beauty. She condemned such behavior as not only confusing but also deeply disrespectful. Amber emphasized that confident and expressive women are often demeaned or misjudged, especially when they set boundaries.
She acknowledged that she should have set clearer boundaries from the start. In her words, she gave too much grace in the name of being cool or relatable, which led to blurred lines. She admitted it was a lesson learned the hard way but expressed hope that her daughter would learn from her experience. Amber said she would teach her that kindness is not weakness and that boundaries are a sign of self-respect.
The revelations triggered a wave of reactions online. Many sided with Amber, praising her courage to speak out and hold someone accountable for crossing the line. Others criticized Obinna’s approach, calling it a reflection of negative masculinity and a lack of respect for women. While the online community processed Amber’s claims, Obinna hit back with accusations of his own, alleging that Amber had turned up drunk and late for his music video shoot, causing delays and disrespecting the crew.
The clash between the two personalities has divided opinions, with both sides defending their actions. However, the central theme remains a call for respect, boundaries, and professionalism in all relationships—personal or business.
