The ongoing debate over the care of gospel singer Betty Bayo’s children has been clarified, with Pastor Victor Kanyari confirming that the children will remain with Hiram “Tash” Gitau, their late mother’s widower. The announcement comes after days of speculation fueled by a leaked audio clip in which Kanyari expressed concern over custody arrangements.
Kanyari’s Decision Rooted in Compassion
Speaking at his Nairobi church on Sunday, Kanyari explained that his decision was motivated by empathy for Tash, who is mourning the loss of his wife. “I know he is hurting… he is mourning. And the people who can give him a bit of comfort right now are the children,” Kanyari said. He stressed that he had no intention of engaging in a custody battle and preferred a peaceful approach to ensure harmony for the children.
Private Discussions During Funeral Period
Kanyari revealed that he and Tash had private conversations regarding the children’s welfare while funeral arrangements were ongoing. He encouraged Tash to stay calm and reassured him that the children could remain in his care to allow for a dignified farewell for Bayo. “Whenever I was near him, he would ask me, ‘What about the children?’ and I told him, ‘Let them stay with you,’” Kanyari explained.
Public Praise for Maturity and Cooperation
The announcement has been met with positive reactions from the public. Many praised both men for handling the situation with maturity and prioritizing the best interests of the children. Online comments highlighted Tash’s quiet strength and called for continued peaceful co-parenting. Messages ranged from admiration—“Maturity on another level”—to prayers for calm and cooperation: “I hope you co-parent in peace; that is all I pray for.”
Kanyari Affirms Continued Parental Involvement
To counter claims of absenteeism, Kanyari shared screenshots of past conversations with his daughter, Sky Victor, demonstrating his active involvement in her life. The messages show support for school fees, uniforms, dental braces, and other needs, highlighting that he has consistently maintained a role in his children’s upbringing despite not living with them following his separation from Bayo.
One message from October 2023 shows Sky thanking her father for supporting her education, calling him “the best” and “the father anyone could ask for.” Kanyari emphasized that he will continue to stay actively involved in the lives of his children, ensuring strong connections regardless of where they reside.
