Kenyan actress Lavender, famously known for her role as a no-nonsense police officer in the local TV comedy series Inspekta Mwala, recently took a stand against societal pressure to get married. The celebrated screen personality responded boldly to persistent questions about her marital status, delivering a message that resonated with many Kenyans online.
In a light-hearted yet firm response, Lavender posted a video of herself singing along to the Luo gospel song Nyasaye Marahuma by Eunice Ogoma. The song reflects the emotional burden and shame some women endure from constant questioning about their relationship status. Dressed casually in a blue denim jacket, white t-shirt, and black trousers while relaxing at home, Lavender looked confident and unbothered.
Accompanying her video was a simple but powerful caption: “Aunty, I will one day get married. Marriage is not a profession.” This statement struck a chord with many, prompting a wave of support and mixed reactions from her followers.
Social media users quickly filled the comment sections with a variety of opinions. Some encouraged her, reminding her that marriage shouldn’t be a forced goal, especially in a society that often measures a woman’s worth by her marital status. Others, however, offered cautionary advice, suggesting that waiting too long might have emotional consequences later in life.
One user remarked that there’s no rush and added that Lavender’s time would come. Another pointed out that marriage is not among the Ten Commandments and shouldn’t be treated as a societal requirement. Someone else commented that while marriage is not a profession, it still holds value, especially in later years when companionship becomes even more significant.
Others offered more personal reflections, sharing how age can make relationships harder, especially without a stable career or strong support network. A few even expressed their frustrations with similar societal expectations, saying they’re also single at 40 but continue to find peace through faith and patience.
Another person shared an encouraging testimony about their aunt, who got married at the age of 45 and is now happily settled. The general tone across many of the comments was supportive, affirming the belief that everyone’s journey is different and that there is no set timeline for finding love or settling down.
Lavender’s bold response highlighted the ongoing pressure many women face regarding marriage, especially those in the public eye. Her clarity and confidence in setting her own pace became an empowering reminder for others navigating the same expectations.
Elsewhere, the Inspekta Mwala show has also recently made headlines for different reasons. The show’s lead actor, Davis Mwabili, better known as Inspekta Mwala, came under criticism after a video surfaced of him driving without a safety belt and clapping while on the road. The video, which raised concerns about road safety, reignited conversations from years ago when he was previously involved in a tragic road accident.
Additionally, the veteran entertainer recently opened up about his decision to step away from his long-running radio career. After over a decade in the industry, he expressed a desire for new challenges and hinted at eventually exiting the acting scene, though he did not specify when.
Despite the noise around her, Lavender’s message remains clear: marriage will come when it’s time—and that’s perfectly okay.
