Musician turned pastor Size 8 has shared a heartfelt account of the challenging period she and her husband, DJ Mo, went through during their seven-month separation. Although they lived apart, they remained in communication for the sake of their children, showing a commitment to co-parenting despite their difficulties.
During the separation, Size 8 and DJ Mo maintained respect and care for each other, particularly because of their two children, a daughter and a son. She described how they continued to talk and support one another, making sure the children felt loved and secure. “We separated, but we did not block each other because we have kids. It came automatically. I would tell her I miss her when I was visiting the kids. We had a sit down and talked and everything flowed. You can’t be a man and dumb. We can call it a break,” she explained.
Reflecting on the separation, Size 8 admitted it was a difficult time emotionally, especially as she struggled to forgive her husband. Despite this, she realized how much she missed him and appreciated his role in their family. She praised DJ Mo as an exceptional father, emphasizing that even amid relationship struggles, the children remain the most affected. She urged parents going through similar challenges to seek counselling for their children, pointing out how important it is to address the emotional impact on young minds during parental conflicts.
Size 8 opened up about how their eldest daughter, Ladasha, was deeply affected by the separation. The young girl’s attachment to her father was particularly strong—stronger even than her bond with her mother. The pastor recounted a moment that made her reconsider her own perspective. She was called to her daughter’s school after Ladasha broke down in tears, struggling to cope with her parents’ living arrangements.
Ladasha had visited her father at his new home and returned to school overwhelmed by the reality that her parents were no longer living together. “For us, Wambo was affected. Her dad is her everything. She can live without me, but not the dad. So she was really affected. She did not know what was going on, but she missed her dad’s presence,” Size 8 shared. The daughter’s distress was a wake-up call for the mother, making her realize that she had not fully considered how the separation was impacting her child. Ladasha kept asking questions like, “Where is dad?” revealing the confusion and pain she was feeling.
One particular incident stood out—a day when Ladasha went to visit her dad’s house and then returned to school visibly upset. The class teacher reached out to Size 8, explaining that the young girl had cried during class because her father lived in a different house. This moment was a significant realization for Size 8, highlighting the emotional toll on her daughter and underscoring the need for parents to prioritize their children’s emotional wellbeing during times of separation.
Ultimately, Size 8 and DJ Mo reconciled after seven months apart, coming back together with renewed understanding and commitment. The experience has left the pastor advocating for greater awareness of the effects parental separation has on children and the importance of communication, patience, and professional support during such transitions. Her story serves as a reminder that even when relationships face challenges, the wellbeing of children must remain at the forefront of every decision.
