Social media personality Gloria Ntanzola has stirred conversation online after revealing that her ex-partner remains a significant figure in her life despite their romantic relationship ending.
In a candid post, Gloria shared, “Even when you make noise at me, my ex loves me, and he bought me this car. We broke up, and he still maintains it. I am not in a relationship but still seeing my ex as friends because these other men talk too much and are so ghetto and rough. They can’t dress well and smell good. My ex never says no to everything I ask, however little.”
Her remarks have reignited debate about the complexities of staying close to an ex, particularly when they continue to offer emotional and financial support.
The Benefits
Gloria’s experience illustrates how some post-breakup friendships can be beneficial. Continued support whether in the form of car maintenance, shared expenses, or emotional reassurance can provide stability and comfort during transitional periods. When handled with maturity, such relationships can also preserve mutual respect, avoiding the bitterness that often follows a split.
The Risks
However, maintaining this closeness comes with potential pitfalls. Emotional attachment can linger, making it harder for both parties to move on. Dependence financial or otherwise can blur the boundaries between friendship and romance, leaving room for misunderstandings or rekindled expectations.
What It Says About Values
Gloria’s comments also shed light on what she values in a partner: good manners, refined presentation, and generosity. Her preference suggests that for some, emotional compatibility and lifestyle alignment outweigh the idea of a “clean break.” In this case, her ex’s qualities continue to meet her standards in ways new partners have not.
A Wider Conversation
Gloria’s situation raises broader questions about modern relationships: Can you truly be “just friends” with someone who still plays such an active role in your life? Is it a sign of healthy maturity or an emotional safety net?
For many, the answer lies in self-awareness. Staying close to an ex can work, but only if both individuals maintain clear boundaries and understand the emotional implications. As Gloria’s story shows, the end of romance doesn’t always mean the end of meaningful connection.
