Lawyer and social media commentator Wahome Thuku has shed light on why high-profile funerals are increasingly becoming private affairs. Speaking on Facebook on Friday, November 21, 2025, Wahome revealed that tensions and even physical scuffles marred a recent high-profile burial, highlighting the need for discretion.
“Naskia watu walitandikwa makofi kwa mazishi,” Wahome noted, reflecting on the chaos that unfolded during the funeral. He argued that such incidents illustrate why many prominent families now prefer to bury loved ones quietly, away from public scrutiny.
According to Wahome, invite-only arrangements ensure that only a select few are present, leaving the public with little information. He explained that behind-the-scenes preparations for influential figures are often meticulous and designed to maintain dignity.
“Have you ever asked yourself why a very prominent person will die, a notification will be published, and after that, you don’t hear anything about the burial?” he asked. “Because they will be buried by 25 people in their private family cemetery. No cameras, no flowers, no eulogy. The actual burial is done by hired undertakers.”
The lawyer emphasized that private burials aim to prevent what he called funeral ‘business’—where crowds, political rivalries, and attention seekers turn mourning into a spectacle. “Grief should remain private, dignified, and free from performance,” he added.
Wahome’s remarks come a day after the late Betty Bayo was laid to rest at her farm in Nduberi, Kiambu County, in a ceremony that drew thousands, including Pastor Victor Kanyari and Hiram Gitau. The event became a highly publicized and emotional gathering, contrasting sharply with the private, controlled funerals Wahome advocates.
Online, Kenyans have engaged with his views, with many agreeing that modern funerals often prioritize social media attention and image over genuine mourning. In a world where mourning has become public spectacle, Wahome’s message is clear: true peace may only be found in privacy and solemnity.
